I got into a disagreement with my ex and, being stupid and angry, ended up tossing some of my wine at her. Not the glass, just the liquid. I then walked away and went inside and left her alone. It wasn’t until later that I realized this could be deemed assault. What is the likelihood of being charged with a crime based on this? How can I find out if charges have been pressed against me? Also, does it at all matter that she has physically abused me in the past (i.e., kicked, punched, and thrown things at me?).
Thanks.
11 responses so far ↓
1 jslinderml // Nov 3, 2008
Is it a crime? technically yes. Likelihood of being charged? Minimal, unless she is really vindictive. More than likely she’ll come after you for dry cleaning.
2 Kelsi // Nov 3, 2008
I really don’t think that you can be charged with a crime unless you actually hurt her. Did the wine go in her eyes? The only way you could be charged is if you hurt her.
Doubtful that she’ll press charges anyway.
3 Nick F // Nov 3, 2008
highly doubtful if that was the case i would have sued adventure island theme park and all 1000 people there for splashing water in my face. I think your highly over reacting.
4 Im always right. // Nov 3, 2008
Yes you can be charged (See Larry Johnson of the KC Chiefs). Everything else I’m not sure about.
5 Patrick G // Nov 3, 2008
It’s called assault
6 lilia // Nov 3, 2008
You would already know if she had pressed charges on you. It is a form of assault, a misdemeanor. But you don’t deserve to live this way. We allow people to treat us the way they do. Take a good look please at your self esteem and why you are staying in this marriage and living in this kind of situation.
7 Luke M // Nov 3, 2008
slim chance.
you know when she is pressing charges when the police arrest you and take you to be interviewed.
but it’s unlikely you will be charged because the minimum for ass ult to chasting of the skin ( making it go red).
and if you do go to court then the whole she assaulted me first will help you alot.
8 Robin G // Nov 3, 2008
Disorderly conduct, criminal mischief, domestic dispute…there’s a lot of potential depending on how she handles it. If she reports it to the police, they’d let you know pretty quick. Past abuse is scant grounds for evidence, because you failed to report it when it happened. Sounds like you should maybe stay away from her.
A lot really depends on your local laws, as they vary widely from state to state.
9 terrified by spiders // Nov 3, 2008
Whether you get charged or not, splahing wine on your ex will still be remembered. Learn how to take the high road, and as important, keep your distance. Don’t get close enough for her to be able to kick or punch. Throwing things, that might be a bit harder. When you can control your compulsive behavior, you’ll be proud of yourself and have a higher self-esteem.
10 wraithwolve // Nov 3, 2008
You can be charged with assault in most places.
11 lundstromn // Nov 3, 2008
it could be considered abuseive but not assault maybe insult
and if its true concerning the other you could counter charge for abuses
but i think you both need to drop it all sit down and talk andif you cant do it without one or the other over reacting to words then you both need to start writing out your thoughts and feelings till you realy understand each other and figure out where you two can get along basicaly a negotiational aggreement a trade aggreement things you will do for her likeing and things she will do to your liking and on issues you both dont agree you both need to study deeper to find out what truely is the better way