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Our Brand New ACCELERATED Fat Loss Diet!I recieved the shock of my life last night when my fiance informed me that his sister is planning on serving penis-shaped pasta at our rehersal dinner. My fiance thinks it is hilarious and "all in good fun." My SIL and I are on shaky ground as it is, and I don't want to anything else that could possibly upset her. What really bothers me is that several small children under the age of 12 of both sexes are going to be attending the dinner and I do not want them to ask their parents what it is. I also think it's very tacky and disturbing. Should I just let my sister-in-law do what she wants or make a stand?
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1 costcogal07 // Jul 11, 2008
I would make a stand
especially if there will be kids there!
2 coreykmbll94 // Jul 11, 2008
lol
3 Paige F // Jul 11, 2008
its your dinner. tell her how u feel. tell her that u dont want tha younger kids asking. lol.
4 Creme De Cocoa // Jul 11, 2008
It's your dinner, tell him/her that this would be unacceptable.
I've heard of Penne pasta but penis shaped, that's pretty weird.
5 Brayden // Jul 11, 2008
Obviously make a stand! It may be hard, but do you really want anything screwing up such an important night?
6 lemon head // Jul 11, 2008
thats absolutely disguisting and completely TASTELESS. im sure youre not a trailer park trash kind of family, dont act like it, especially in front of children, that is so gross. if i was at a rehearsal dinner, let alone anywhere at all that served penis pasta, id get up and walk right out and never look back. GROSS.
7 veronicamars // Jul 11, 2008
omg no! that is uncalled for at a rehearsal dinner. maybe a bachelorette party it would be ok, but not a rehearsal dinner. kids will be there and it's not appropriate. it's not classy and gross. i would never allow that. it's YOUR wedding, don't let her run it.
8 Agit8r // Jul 11, 2008
Your sister-in-law needs to go spend a year in jail.
9 elven.writer // Jul 11, 2008
If it were just mature adults, I'd think it were okay, but with people under 18 being there, I'd stand up and say no. I wouldn't want any sexual reference with children around.
10 Breaking // Jul 11, 2008
don't let her do it.
11 Why breed with pets in need? // Jul 11, 2008
No, let her do what she wants. This isnt your problem. Maybe she needs the dramatic scene of upset parents to condition her maturity. Or, maybe you are just being a tad overdramatic yourself.
12 Melissa♥ // Jul 11, 2008
If it was a bunch of adults, it would be a funny gag, but since there ARE children that are going to be there, it is inappropriate. Not only is it inappropriate, your sister-in-law will probably piss off a lot of parents. Make a stand, it can turn your rehearsal dinner into a disaster.
13 DJ // Jul 11, 2008
Make a stand……that shouldn't be joked about.
14 Dobby // Jul 11, 2008
wow. that pasta would be really awkward to eat. and don't serve it in alfredo sauce. in fact, don't serve it at all. that's a horrible idea if kids are going to be there. ND
15 mommy213 // Jul 11, 2008
No-no. She should save it for the bachelorette party if there is one, not the rehearsal dinner. If it shows up anyway, tell your wedding party to make sure everyone knows where it came from so she looks like the idiot.
16 asdevola // Jul 11, 2008
haha. Tell her no. Bad.
17 Some girl with question // Jul 11, 2008
make a stand of course..sure its funny for the Grown Peepl…
if there are going to be kids around maybe it shouldnt be done..
and plus older folks especially women on menopause
probably will not like it at all…it will make u look so bad..
good luck…do wats rite
18 Amanda C // Jul 11, 2008
Good Lord! i would never let someone do that. how humilitating. maybe if it was a bachelorette party, but the REHERSAL DINNER. NO. That is messed up. what would the elderly people think? it is just trashy
19 Carlie // Jul 11, 2008
make a stand !!!
20 Rebecca R // Jul 11, 2008
Make a stand, its your night, your dinner, for you. Don't let her control you, even if she takes it offensivly and walks out on you, find someone else, someone repsonsible and respectful of WHO this dinner is really for.
21 omfgsh // Jul 11, 2008
that is so wierd…..
take a stand. penis shaped anything (besides penis) is a no-no
seriously. i mean wtf? penis shaped pasta?
just tell her that you know its all in good fun, but your just not comfortable having genitalia be the main course. also mention the kids, and how youre worried about them.
22 Ima Vegan // Jul 11, 2008
Rehearsal dinner? Bah. Penis pasta is strictly for the bachelorette party. You future SIL needs to brush up on her Emily Post.
The kids will never know what it is. Tell them they're spaceships.
23 meep! // Jul 11, 2008
honestly, half of those children will have those parts and the other have will know some day. I bet you the kids won't notice anyway. PLUS ITS NOT LIKE SHE IS SHOWING PORN.
If it really really really in your deep down heart bothers you and you can't possibly get over it, well say something
but honestly it is a little funny
24 Nicole // Jul 11, 2008
You have to stop her! That would not be appropriate! Are you having a bachelorette party? If so maybe you could encourage her to serve it that night to a small group of your girlfriends over cocktails instead! She sounds like a goof ball and obviously has no common sense. You have to put your foot down this time.
25 Mel // Jul 11, 2008
I would absolutely not allow this. Absolutely not!!!!!! That is incredibly tacky, and disgusting and it would ruin your entire dinner. Do not allow it!!!!!!
If sister in law is offended, so be it. She is not the one getting married. She is bad news.
26 full.moon.pills // Jul 11, 2008
That's really grotesque. The children aren't the problem. Since it's YOUR rehearsal dinner, tell her firmly no. You have every right to do so. That is disgusting and classless.
27 tickled blue // Jul 11, 2008
rehearsal dinners are the guys thing…..everything else is exactly what you want…..I would let it go. Penis' aren't sinful or disturbing…..all children should know what a penis is….as a part of basic human anatomy. Shunning pasta shaped penis' is a bad reason to fight with your inlaws.
28 Misty // Jul 11, 2008
Oh my gosh….that just cracks me up. I want to hang out with your sis-in-law. I see the humor in it.
As far as it being an event where families and small children will be there…I promise you that no one will notice (unless someone says something)
It can just be an inside joke.
29 just curious // Jul 11, 2008
Tell her to save it for the next grown-up only party. If you have to tell her that some people attending the dinner are very religious and would find it deeply offensive if their children saw it.
If you really don't have the balls to say something or don't want to upset her, let someone else in your family upset her. Get them to say something to her and get her to think that it's all their fault and not yours.
30 Liz // Jul 11, 2008
Make a stand, by all means. And I would re-think marrying that bloke too. He sounds like an immature moron. Serving penis pasta to children under 12??? When you and him have kids, do you want him to pull stunts like that because, after all, they're "all in good fun".
31 so_chaotic_bitch // Jul 11, 2008
Let her its funny.
But do keep it away from the kids.
32 DooWopKid // Jul 11, 2008
It is your rehearsal dinner. Do you want that story to float around for years to come? Ask your fiances to speak to his sister and discourage her from doing that. Let your fiances handle it and you stay out of it. Good luck.
33 Jen // Jul 11, 2008
I think it's tacky!!!
34 MissingMySoldier // Jul 11, 2008
Definitely no penis shaped pasta at your rehersal dinner, that is very inappropriate! I think that its hysterical for your bridal shower or bachelorette dinner but you need to put your foot down on this one and being that you are on shaky grounds with her, kindly ask ur fiance to speak to her about it and tell her he doesnt think its a good idea. Have him mention the bechelorette party idea….Sorry that you have a nut job for a SIL lol…Congrats and Good Luck
35 2godly4no1 // Jul 11, 2008
hun its you're wedding not hers….tell her,no you don't think it's a wise mature thing to do cause their is going to be younger kids there and it would be disturbing to see the faces on these parents when their kids ask them what is this,holding a penis in their hand….
good luck on you're wedding!
36 Stay-at-home-mom // Jul 11, 2008
Make no mistake this is your day not hers. If she doesn't have enough common sense to leave the racy stuff for the adults only parties than your in for a long, tense relationship with her. Tell her u think its hilarious too, but not around the kids. Does she drink heavily by any chance? Good luck honey.
37 shorty // Jul 11, 2008
she is an idiot. bachelor party, ok, rehearsal dinner is where the families come together after the wedding is rehearsed. it can be casual but not tacky and offensive. this is offensive. go for the little kid angle, tell her absolutely not, is she crazy, and, take this opportunity to explain to your guy that if he wants to marry you he needs to have more discernment as to what is funny and what is innapropriate. that he thinks this is funny is disturbing.
38 Crystal G // Jul 11, 2008
YES you need to tell her that that is inappropriate for the children that will be there and you just dont want that kind of stuff at your rehearsal dinner. and you would appreciate very much if she would need do it. and you need to tell you husband to back you on this issue with his sister. you have a very valid point and the SIL need to respect your wishes. be nice about it and just tell her is cute and fun but there is a time and place for everything and at the dinner is not it. GodBless
39 john n // Jul 11, 2008
This is your day not hers, not even his. Weddings are all about the girl, guys would sign a paper and be done with it.
Tell him that it reall bothers you and it will be a stain on your life and your beautiful day.
I'm thinking if he don't care then your probably not marrying the right fella.
Read the book
40 buffpuff // Jul 11, 2008
It is your rehearsal dinner, correct? Let her know that that is not something you feel is appropriate to serve at a place with both young and old people (the old people might be offended). She shouldn't be too sensitive because it is your wedding. If she does get sensitive about it then just say, "It's my wedding and I want it to be age appropriate." If she can't understand that then clearly she's a bit nuts.
41 thifty_spender // Jul 11, 2008
The pasta would definately be inappropriate for a dinner
rehearsal. It won't sit well with parents if children are around.
If the SIL insists on serving it, maybe schedule an
after-rehearsal get together with people who might be
interested… perhaps some kind of ladies night theme
so the appropriate audience is there. At this point,
if you're simply disturbed you can leave after a little
mingling and say you need beauty rest.
42 alines // Jul 11, 2008
You're the bride. She shouldn't be upsetting YOU. If it was for the bachelorette party, ok. But a rehearsal dinner with children and other guests? Lol!! There's no way to 'sugar coat' the situation. You have to tell her exactly how you feel. It does sound tacky and I hope that somehow she will understand. *cringes*
43 jigglin4u // Jul 11, 2008
Tell her she can eat all the peni' she wants…at home.
44 Mom Mominson // Jul 11, 2008
Inappropriate for the rehearsal dinner. How redneck is this woman? It would be okay only at your "bachelorette party." It is tacky and disturbing. Is she hosting this dinner? Is she paying for it? If not then she has no say as what is served. Your parents will be there for crying out loud. If you do not put your foot down now she will run over you every time throughout your married life in this family. Screw the shaky ground you are on already. This is your wedding not hers. Tell her in no uncertain terms that this is your wedding and the pasta is completely inappropriate for the rehearsal dinner. You could soften it by saying that You wish she had thought of it for your shower cause it is kinda funny, but you are not having it at your rehearsal dinner.
45 marymertz1 // Jul 11, 2008
Dr. Phil would say that if your fiance's sister is being a "problem" then let him tell her no and that it's a bad idea. You shouldn't have to defend yourself to his sister. If your fiance won't tell her, well, that will tell you a lot, and I'd run the other way. Marriage is a hard thing and with a husband that won't back you up with his family… that is something you don't want to have to deal with.
46 Praire Crone // Jul 11, 2008
That should be served at your bacholerette party not the rehearsal dinner.
47 Dina L // Jul 11, 2008
Absolutely not!
Rehearsal dinners are formal events where both families, and the wedding party and friends if invited, come together to celebrate the upcoming marriage.
Your sister-in-law has it confused with a bachelorette party which normally has raunchy gags, games, activities and props (like "penis pasta" or a "penis cake"). Tell your sister-in-law that if she wants to throw you an adults-only, all-girls bachelorette party before the wedding, complete with penis pasta, great! But the rehearsal dinner has to be appropriate to an event that's going to have conservative adults, young kids, and people with class! (Okay, don't mention that last part …)
48 Raj Persaud // Jul 11, 2008
Are the penii in a state of arousal?
If so ,put them in cold water before serving
49 MissE // Jul 11, 2008
I would make a stand. I am with you it is seriously tacky and immature. The fact that she does not take small children into account is really really sad
50 FRANCO // Jul 11, 2008
Obviously they have no class !
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